Chat random sxs - Self esteem and dating
When I was a little girl, I wanted to be a teacher, then a detective (like Columbo or Jessica Fletcher, ahem), and then a writer.
Many moons later, and here I am teaching people who are tired of emotional unavailability, toxic relationships, and feeling 'not good enough', how to reduce their emotional baggage so that they can reclaim themselves and make space for better relationships and opportunities.
" She said the S-word three more times before we even got to my consulting room.
She told me (apologetically), "The trouble was, he kept telling me to love myself but he didn't really tell me how to."Joy needed practical help. If you have low self-esteem then you are better than you think you are. When your self-esteem improves, it's because your has improved; just as the ugly duckling in Hans Christian Anderson's famous tale had to learn its true nature before it could become fulfilled.
I’m pretty sure you’re aware of this, but just in case, here’s why: you cannot attract someone who will love you for who you are when you’re afraid to be your true self, are holding yourself to impossible standards, or are putting up with shadiness in the name of being ‘nice’ and ‘loving’.
The other thing is that people pleasing and perfectionism have already been proven to not work for you—there’s a better, easier way to live and love: becoming more of who you really are by breaking the faux rules you’ve written for your life, confronting your emotional baggage so it’s stops running you, and choosing wellbeing over pleasing.
I also love playing detective and helping solve 'cases' like relationship patterns and shady situations.